Your Loss

I have really found some self worth in myself when it comes to guys. If you don't want to be with me then it's your loss. I am a great catch, and if you don't see that then you don't deserve me. I have been going through my past few years feeling down on myself, as if I am not good enough for all these failed relationships and men who do not like me the way I like them. I have found that its not my fault. It's ridiculous that I have been making myself so depressed because some guy does not want to be with me, as if there is something wrong with me.

There are so many songs and movies that tell society and young people that they need a companion to make them happy. I was one of the people who fell for this crap. We live in a society where everything around us is designed to bring us down as human beings. Once you realize this, everything becomes so clear. I can't count how many movies I have seen that tell us that we need someone to make us whole and that being in a relationship is the only thing that will make you whole. In Jerry Maguire, Tom Cruise tells Renee Zellweger, "You Complete Me." However in all reality, you have to complete yourself before you can let someone be a partner to your life. You should not need that person to complete the emptiness thats inside of you. You need to fill that hole yourself.

I have come to realize this and will no longer be forced to think that I need a guy to make me happy. Without sounding egotistical, I am a great guy and anybody would be privileged to have me in their life. Many people have not liked me romantically and platonically, because of who I have been in the past. I am a different person then I used to be and have realized the power of self in my life. I don't let people who I care about slip through my fingers because of my depression, because I have taken control and refuse to be depressed anymore. There is no reason to be. If people don't want to see and know the real me, then again, IT'S THEIR LOSS.

I am going to start to live my life to the fullest and not let love and stupid people bring me down and depress me. My life is good, and it stupid of me to think otherwise. I know I have some struggles coming to me in the future, but I look forward to the fight because I have completed myself. I challenge everyone to try and complete themselves without another human being. It will take a lot of work, but it's your life. You should take priority in your life. That may seem selfish, but before you can help or be emotionally connected to anyone you need make yourself whole. This is my challenge to you.